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I'm a reader who enjoys posting comments and recommendations about the books I read. You will not find a synopsis with my recommendations because you can just click on the book title for a link to www.goodreads.com for a synopsis and reviews by other readers. I prefer the 3 Reason format: the reason I chose to read it; the reason I liked (or disliked) the book; and the reason I recommend it.

Wednesday, December 20, 2006

The Menacing Mathematics of Multiple Meds

http://chetday.com/multipledruguse.htm

This is an article about the number of proper drug tests that is needed for the question that each and every one of you should ask your pharmacist, "Are there any interactions between my drugs?"

Patients were frustrated with my answer, "I don't know."
Some were quick to angrily respond, "I thought you were the damn pharmacist who is supposed to help me."
I tried to calmly explain that while I know about the side effects of the individual drugs; at best, I make interpolations based on what metabolic pathways the drugs might share and what elimination systems might be involved.

The author of this article, Gary Craig, does the math for how many proper tests would be required for drug combinations.
"Here's how the mathematics work: If you take three drugs then adequate safety testing of the various combinations require seven separate tests. If you take four drugs the combination requres 25 separate tests. If you take five drugs it amounts to 121 tests. If you take ten drugs the number of required safety tests total 362,881."
My math says 3,628,801. (10x9x8x7x6x5x4x3x2+1)

The most drugs I dispensed to an individual was eighteen (the number of tests required is a number with more digits than my calculator holds). This year Host dispensed twenty-three drugs to an individual. There are many scary things about these situations to us. One of which is that people are still making decisions for themselves despite the stress their body and mind must be under.

So please the next time you make an appointment with a physician, please ask the physician to prescribe only minimal amounts based on your body weight and not what is the average prescribed dose. Ask what medication can be deleted from your therapeutic regimen. Give the deleted medication sufficient time to get out of your system before you imagine that you really want it back. Change lifestyles, diet and exercises to repair and restore your health as much as possible. Even if you must maintain your level of medication, a change lifestyle, diet and exercise may postpone inevitable decline that requires more medication.

Hippocrates charge to physicians to "First, do no harm" is good advice for each individual. Stop hurting yourself.

Monday, December 18, 2006

2006 Reading List

As I look over my reading list for 2006, my reading seems purposeful and easily divided into categories. I invite your comments and your recommendations for my Reading Candidates List.
Health-Related Topics
8 Weeks to Optimal Health by Andrew Weil
Animals in Translation by Temple Grandin
UltraMemory by Bob Kittell
Healthy Aging by Andrew Weill
Simply Eat! by jon Benson
Moving Beyond Cardio by Jon Benson
The Toxin Fast by Jon Benson
Blink! by Malcolm Gladwell
The Power of Focus by Canfield, Hansen and Hewitt
The Tomorrow Trap by Karen Peterson
The Top Ten "Superfoods" by Jon Benson and David Eller
Investing
Rich Dad's Prophecy by Robert Kiyosaki with Sharon Lechter
Investing in IPOs: Version 2.0 by Tom Taulli
How I Made $2,000,000 in the Stock Market by Nicholas Darvas
Jim Cramer's Real Money by James J. Cramer
How to Trade in Stocks by Jesse Livermore (with updates and commentary by Richard Smitten)
Rule #1 by Phil Town
How to Make Money Selling Stocks Short by William O'Neil and Gil Morales
Development of Writing Skills
Michael Masterson's Accelerated Program for 6-Figure Copywriting
The Ultimate Travel Writer's Course
How to write Articles for Newspapers and Magazines by Dawn Sova
Publishing a Blog with Blogger by Elizabeth Castro
Blogging in a Snap by Julie C. Meloni
Telling Lies for Fun and Profit by Lawrence Block
Creative Nonfiction by Philip Gerard
Creative Nonfiction by Lee Gutkind
The Right to Write by Julia Cameron
The Wealthy Writer by Michael Meanwell
Travel-Related Topics
Jamaica Lonely Planet Guide
Dominican Republic and Haiti Lonely Planet Guide
Jamaica and the Caymen Islands Cadogan Guides
Yucatan and Mayan Mexico Cadogan Guides
Ohio: The Pleasures and Treasures of Warren County by Ralph Johnston
The Best American Travel Writing 2005, edited by Jamaica Kincaid
The Map that Changed the World by Simon Winchester
The Unofficial Guide to Cruises, 8th edition
Traveler's Companion: Mexico, 2nd edition
The Flaneur by Edmund White
Barcelona: The Great Enchantress by Robert Hughes
The Getty Center by Michael Brawne
Imagined London by Anna Quindlen
A Writer's Paris by Eric Maisel
A Writer's San Francisco by Eric Maisel
The Path Between the Seas by David McCullough
The Devil in the White City by Erik Larson
Fiction
The Best American Non-Required Reading
Fledgling by Octavia Butler
Warriors of the Plain by Karl Lassitier
The Time Traveler's Wife by Audrey Niffenger
Can't Wait to Get to Heaven by Fannie Flagg
To the Nines by Janet Evanovich
Twelve Mile Limit by Randy Wayne White
Armageddon's Children by Terry Brooks
Non-Fiction
Obsessive Genius: The Inner World of Marie Curie by Barbara Goldsmith
Digital Photography: 99 Easy Tips by Ken Milburn
Preserving Your Family Photographs by Maureen A. Taylor
Bait and Switch by Barbara Ehrenreich
Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths go to Work by Babiak and Hare

Wednesday, December 13, 2006

Daughter Remembers 15th Anniversary

"Happy Anniversary!, 15 years ago can you believe it!? Thanks for always being there for me. Even when you were dealing with your own worries/anxieties you managed to teach me how to deal with difficult situations and come out of them a better person. So to honor this special anniversary, take some time to be grateful for how lucky and blessed we have been and to laugh a little bit today. Because laughter was always the best medicine. And dad, don't even think about spending all day stressed in front of the computer!!!I love you both very much!
Daughter"

Fifteen years ago Daughter had surgery to correct the scoliosis of her spine. More years have passed since the surgery than her age at the surgery. The surgery is in her background and she is better for having it. No longer are her ribs in such torsion that they could affect her heart or her lungs. This year she sought help from new doctors to prescribe some physical therapy so that she could get the physical training to do exercises properly to keep her back and core muscles strong despite sedentary desk work. Not only did she get them but she does them twice a day! You go, girl.

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Cousin Marcia Had a Stroke or Aneurysm

Christy sends this urgent message.
I just wanted to let you know it looks like Marcia has had a massive stroke. I tried to email all of you before I left to go to N.C. but evidently our email was down.
Pat, her husband, called Dad late Friday afternoon, saying they were careflighting Marcia. At that time they thought she might have a brain aneurysm or a stroke.
Dad and I left Saturday mid morning for North Carolina. We got to see her at 8:00 p.m. that night.
She is paralyzed on her right side. She seems to know who you are, and can only say yes and no at this point. She can move her left side, kick her leg, move her arm and wrist and fingers of her left side. Her right side is completely paralyzed.
Dad and I got to see her again the next day (Sunday) before we had to leave as I had to get back to work. No change
Yesterday(Monday), Pat called and said they did a Probe. They went in through her groin and went into the brain. They said they would not have to fix anything in the brain. He also said they have moved her to the Neuro Unit, so she is out of the Neuro ICCU unit now. That is good news. He also went on to say that they got her up and with Jim's help she was able to stand for 2 to 3 seconds. She was able to brush her teeth with help too.
Time will tell, and she has a long row to hoe, but knowing how she has a lot of mom in her and dad's stubborness she will do it. We are so thankful she is left handed.
I have everyone at school praying for her and I know my friends have sent emails to scores of others, but more prayers for her couldn't hurt, I'm sure they would help. I think her son Jim is taking it the hardest, mainly because he is most like Marcia. Lori is there too, but she doesn't talk about what she feels, she holds it all in like Pat.
I will keep you all updated as we know more.

Monday, December 11, 2006

Mom's Heart Condition

The date for Mom's surgery will be Jan 9, 2007.
Mom is a candidate for surgery to replace a heart valve, repair two others and do one coronary artery bypass.
This summer she had several appointments with her cardiologist and participated in tests that the cardiologist suggested. She used Toprol XL as part of the treatment since the worst valve is the mitral valve. Her Florida cardiologist wanted yet another test before he sent her records to a heart surgeon. At the December 11 appointment with the heart surgeon, he told her that time had come to schedule the surgery.
I had not yet broadcast this information because more information was always forthcoming.
She has been feeling pretty good as long as she rests more frequently and limits stair climbing to essential travel. Dad is in good health.

Christmas with My In-Laws

The second weekend in December has become the traditional weekend for the Christmas weekend with Host's Family at the home of his parents. Son's family arrived on Friday night. Our carload arrived on Saturday in time to watch three basketball games while we caught up on family news and ate cookies. The rest of the family arrived in time for the 6PM traditional feast of tossed salad, baked chicken breasts, dressing, cheesy potatoes, green beans, and dinner rolls.
Host takes pictures of many combinations of family groups, even if his niece grows impatient with the delay of gift-opening. He used a tripod to get himself in the family shot but Grandson is hidden behind Daughter. The digital image on the camera could not reveal that problem until he downloaded it to the computer at home.
Gift-opening order was selected by the month of the birthdays. My Staples gift card paid for the photocopying of my Christmas letter this week.
Grandson looked adorable in his Santa bib and also in his Santa's Helper suit.
Dessert was cheesecake and a raspberry log.
Sunday activities was a gathering at home of Host's Sister. A 1500-piece puzzle was started and left incomplete by those of us who had to travel distances yet that day. We learned to play "Shut the Box" and had two good games of Left-Right-Center. She fixed a brunch-feast for twelve people. Her husband had to work but that empty chair was filled by Niece's Special Friend who happens to be a guy.
We arrived at our home by 9PM.

Sunday, December 10, 2006

Cousin Andrew Graduates

Cousin(FC1R) Andrew graduates with a Bachelor of Science degree in Finance from University of South Florida on December 16.

Sunday, December 03, 2006

Daughter Discovers a Waterfall

Late Saturday night, Daughter thought she heard water running and she went to the bathroom to see if the faucet dripped. She was horrified to see water pour through light fixtures and vents in her bathroom and storage closet.
She called Emergency Maintenance, and he arrived after midnight to check on it. That worker went to the upstairs apartment to turn off water supply. Water was ankle-deep in their bathroom. He shop-vacced up that water before he returned to shop-vac much of Daughter's problems wherewater also came through all vents in an additional closet and bedroom.
The crisis abated and the only damage to her stuff was to some cardboard boxes stored in her storage closet.
Fans were set up and professional carpet cleaners were scheduled. There is no schedule for the repair of the ceiling and walls.
She just thanks God that this happened while she was home. She was able to move her stuff out of the way of the waterfall.

Saturday, December 02, 2006

Damage from Windstorm

The windstorm on Dec. 1 took out one and a half cedar trees along our driveway. They did not do any damage to anything else as they fell. They have been removed and chipped the following week.

Friday, November 24, 2006

Thanksgiving Celebrations

We spent Thanksgiving at the home of Son, Daughter-in-Law and Grandson. Mother of Daughter-inLaw baked a fresh turkey that had been marinated in a Jack Daniels brew. Daughter brought cheese ball for appetizers. D-i-L and Daughter helped with all the preparation of side dishes. I brought a squash casserole for the yellow vegetable. After dinner, Aunt Carolyn and Uncle Cecil stopped by for coffee and apple tart.

Saturday, November 11, 2006

Rembrandt exhibit

Brother E, his daughter L and I visit the Dayton Art Institute to see the Rembrandt exhibit together. He claims forty years elapsed since the last time he and I visited DAI together. We talk about the bits of memory of that event. E remembers that it was to see King Tut exhibit. I remember that the group was from our Sunday school classes. A link existed between Sunday school teachings and a pharaoh in Egypt’s history. This pharaoh believed in One God and tried to change religion and culture during his reign.
Brother E remembers I bought a brown beetle that day.
“I still have a scarab bracelet. I don’t remember what you bought.”
He speculates, “Maybe the reason neither of us remembers what I bought is nothing was bought for me; maybe only the princess got what she wanted.”

I don’t know what to say to that: he continues to bewilder me when he relives his hurt feelings with every retelling of stories about our childhood. More than forty years elapsed and he sticks us in stories where the characters are no older than 11 and 15. He remains the juvenile victim of the evil princess. Neither he nor the former princess can free him from the emotional tension of the story’s plot because we cannot remember a souvenir.

The paintings on the walls are metaphoric portrayals of anger, jealousy, resentment and disappointment. Art may last 40 or 400 years or even 4000 years. Humans may commission and buy paintings and etchings; but art is not the only metaphoric portrayals of emotions that people buy into.

Now, at the ages of 51 and 55, we try to be more mature observers of the art. E tells stories about how etching was part of his previous job history. E cannot repeat that employment: that business is closed and its building is shuttered. That story is history. E brings up a statement he heard on talk radio: we already lived through our country’s best times, and the best times can’t be repeated because so much changed. He leaves the statement for me to respond to it. He waits to see if I share his worries.

“If we are only talking about employment possibilities for the self-employed or for blue-collar workers in local manufacturing industries, I might agree. Times and markets are different.” Know-It-All-Big Sister wants to roll her eyes and almost tells him to stop listening to talk radio if he imagines opinions to be assumption-worthy truths. I stifle that role. My thought continues, “If the subject is personal lives and individual futures, I disagree. If we do not stay stuck in roles that we outgrew, I believe the best may be right here; right now.”

Mistakes made in the process of etching are likely to show with every printing. When we notice that times are different, we edit stories and tell a better ending. I want to leave Brother E’s childhood stories to echo among the etchings. This time, I want this story to end, “We enjoyed each other’s company.”

Friday, November 10, 2006

Acceptable Lies

The age was wrong on Niece D’s birthday card. I incorrectly transferred the information from 2005 calendar to 2006 calendar. An incorrect age is not difficult to believe in a family where lying about our ages is acceptable. Our matriarch has been claiming to be 29 for so many years that her grandson is currently the same age. The patriarch of our clan claims to be ‘damn near’ whatever his next birthday will be. I mimicked Dad’s habit of claiming to be ‘damn near 55’ for seventeen months when I began early retirement.

Our family has a conflict between, “Don’t lie” and exceptions to that rule. We were often punished severely for lying or withholding information. We were often punished for telling the truth to people outside the family, especially when those outside the family did not need to know our business. Beliefs about acceptable lying had to be as flexible as a judicial ruling that selects punishment. Beliefs about withholding information are even more flexible. We learn to accept the pretense that 29 will last for more than forty-six years, and we accept that time is fluid enough its estimate for schedule completion will fit into everybody’s schedule. An example of that is the date of these blog entries: I edit the dates to show when I start the essay and not when I finish it. How many other pretenses are acceptable?

Our unexpressed emotional feelings are often a pretense. We try on different roles in stories as we learn acceptable interpretations about events and memories. We learn to use “Fine” until a better interpretation fits the experience. “Fine,” may also be code for “Just you wait until my side is told.”

Incomplete medical information sometimes looks like a lie when it is not. Its incompleteness and unknowable quality does not stop some family members for acting as if they are being lied to or not told the whole story. Fear they are being told lies triggers emotionally manipulative behavior that aggressively damages relationships.

That brings us to the lie that we will be forgiven and our mistakes forgotten. Why forget a mistake when it can become an instructional story to be used to teach others to fear the mistake and inflict punishment on the perpetrator again? Even if you learned your lesson, your mistakes is now an object lesson.

I retain the information that Niece D had a thirteen birthday. I marked a mistaken 13th birthday on the 2006 calendar. On the 2007 calendar I will note the year of her birth

Saturday, November 04, 2006

Energy Efficient Mortgages

http://www.nwf.org/nationalwildlife/article.cfm?issueID=110&articleID=1395

Many of you have careers in real estate, construction, rental properties, and moving into new homes. This URL will take you to an article about mortgages that may include extra funds for energy efficient updates or new construction. I hope this is information that you find useful.

Friday, November 03, 2006

News from my friend Barb

Barb writes: Ron and I spent part of last week with [their daughter] Jenny. We went up to Chicago for a day and visited Shedd aquarium and Navy Pier. It was overcast and windy that day so we didn't spend a lot of time outside. I guess we need to go back when the weather is better. Ron and I had never been to downtown Chicago - just the suburbs when Jenny was bowling in college.
We had several inches of snow overnight - lake effect. We've had flurries several times already but this was the first accumulation. We've had the furnace guy and the fireplace guy out this week getting ready for winter.

Wednesday, November 01, 2006

Reports from Halloween News from Christy

Host and I had more beggars than usual on Halloween so the last ten kids got packs of cheddar cheese snack crackers instead of candy. I bought more than enough candy but I bought it too early. I snacked on too much of it before Beggars' Night.

Christy writes:
We didn't near the amount of beggars we had last year. Last year we had about 49; this year, it was only 15. Tonight [Nov 1] is the home play-off game forM-U [ the school district that employs Christy]. I won't be going to the game. In the morning [as part of her job with her county juvenile services], I will supervise 2 juveniles for cleanup of the stands for their community service. It will probably be cold then too.
[Her] Dad is leaving Florida tomorrow and heading back home. [Christy's uncle] Paul is just unable to keep going back and forth anymore. [Christy's]Aunt Bonnie and Uncle Paul have put their place up for sale. They went down and cleaned their place out. Dad and Uncle Bob put in cabinets and did other things for Bob's youngest daughter Brenda.

Uncle Cecil recuperates from surgery

Uncle Cecil had cataract surgery.
Aunt Carolyn writes:Thanks for Uncle Cecil's get-well card. He is doing fine. He can't play tennis yet and is going stir-crazy, but other than that OK. He is anxious to get new glasses.
We only had three and a half Trick or Treaters last night. The half was a very young one that a grandpa was carrying. They wouldn't let him have a treat, so Grandpa took one instead. He said the young one was "in training" for next year. His older brother was with them (2 years old). Those with our two neighbor children that live behind us were all we had. Fortunately, I hadn't bought a lot of stuff. It was a miserable night.
We worked in the yard today through rain, sleet, etc. We were warmly dressed and had on hoods. Cec mulched the leaves with the lawn mower. Sure beats raking.

Monday, October 30, 2006

Comments from Julie, Greg and Taylor

I learned more about my family when I told them about the great time Host and I had on a vacation trip to Chicago.
Second Cousin Julie wrote, "Did you not love Wicked? Tom and I went to Chicago this past Jan. and also went to see Wicked. Chicago is a great city to visit. We are planning another trip there at Christmas time to see all the lights. We may take the train next time."
I enjoy hearing that someone else I know enjoys theater productions so I asked Julie if she goes to the theater productions in the capital city closest to her.
"Yes, we try to make it to a show now and then. It is hard these days with having children and trying to find a sitter. " Julie continues to write about her recent family vacation. "We went this past weekend to Wisconsin Dells to the Kalahari Indoor Water park Resort. Oh MY!!!!!! It's Huge! These place has it all. What a great place to take the kids too. Also, we ate at a german restaurant downtown Mmmmmmm Good!It was quite cool up there. We saw some snow just north of Chicago on the rooftops. I'm not ready for that yet."

When I mentioned that we had lunch with one of Host's cousins, my First Cousin Greg wrote, "I work in Chicago during the week and stay right off of Michigan Avenue. My account is PepsiCo and I work in one of the towers right next to the Sears Tower. I think Chicago is a great place and have been thinking of selling my house and buying a condo around the Near North."
First Cousin Greg elaborates on the business traveling he does, "I fly weekly. But not always to Chicago. Frito lay is owned by Pepsi and their HQ is outside of Dallas. So I just returned from a two week visit there on Friday. Sunday I flew back to Chicago. I do add up a lot of points on Hotels and flights. I haven't paid for a personal hotel room or a flight in years. One of the benefits of being a frequent traveler. I also like the fact that I have clean sheets everynight. It kind of spoils me." He closes with, "Anyway, hope all is well with everyone and please tell everyone I say "Hi" whenever you see them."


I asked Nephew Taylor what he had to say about his college experience as a freshman.
"It's like the 13th grade sometimes, but there are more vending machines."

Sunday, October 22, 2006

40 Years in Camden


My parents were Grand Marshalls at 2006 Black Walnut Festival. This was the introductory speech for their honor. Dolores wrote it and Taylor edited it for grammar and clarity. I edited a bit more for privacy and the clarity necessary for the parts I omitted.


40 YEARS IN CAMDEN


Howard K. and Dolores purchased John Porter’s White Villa grocery store at 52 E. Central in Camden in March 1966. They switched to the IGA wholesale supplier and changed the name to Camden IGA. They operated at that location until 1974 when they built a new IGA at 200 Cottage Street. Over the years they employed many local people and were proud to give many high schools students their first jobs. Their four children worked in the store. They wish to thank all their former employees for their help in making Camden IGA one of the most progressive supermarkets in Preble County. Camden IGA was first in the county to have electronic scanning and to install a deli and bakery along with the regular departments.

Howard and Dolores both feel it is the duty of all citizens to be involved and participate in their communities. These are some of the ways that they were involved in Camden.

Howard and Dolores supported school activities to help the community. All 4 children attended and graduated from Preble Shawnee High School. A grandson graduated from PSHS this spring and another grandson is a 3rd grade student. They have 6 grandchildren and one great grandchild.

Howard served as a Camden councilman and belonged to the Camden Progressive Club, a group of local men who did projects to help the community. Thirty years ago, after the death of Dr. F.J.Daugherty, the club was responsible for bringing Dr. Thomson to Camden. They were responsible for the annual Christmas decorations and lights.

Many of their business projects involved remodeling and repurposing old buildings and former businesses as the needs of the community changed. One was the remodeling of a former oil company office at 200 Cottage St. into a beauty shop. Howard and Bill Doran formed a partnership and purchased a house at the northeast corner of Cottage Street and Central Avenue which became “ The Depot Dairy Bar”. Shanks Varity Store, which had been an establishment since 1911, was for sale and Howard bought that business which Dolores managed for several years until it was sold to Lawrence Irwin. When Mr. Jefferies wanted to sell his grocery at 15 S. Main Street, Howard purchased it and converted it into a convenience store called Jimbo’s Pizza. They purchased The Woodbine Inn located on Central Avenue and converted it to a beauty shop and apartments. Later The Woodbine Inn was torn down and the lot was sold to the Hardin family who built Camden Village Pharmacy. Howard and Dolores purchased land on North Main Street from a group of investors who called their project Camden Improvement Corp. They worked diligently on their own and with the Camden Area Chamber of Commerce to attract businesses to come to Camden to provide job opportunities and help finance school taxes. Several acres of the project were sold to Wood Propane for a new location to expand its business. More acreage was used for a new business, White’s Lock and Storewhich is a rental storage facility. Part of the land was sold to Ron Good and Wyoming Steel for the construction of Camden Coil, now known as Wyoming Steel. They own one of the oldest buildings in Camden, located at 24 W. Central, which was built as a tin shop in 1877 and has a history of being the location of a hardware store, gift shop, and a tanning salon and gift shop.

In January 1988 they sold Camden IGA to Fred Green and Chuck Stidham.

They were instrumental in starting the Camden Area Chamber of Commerce which is sponsoring this 19th annual Black Walnut Festival. Twenty-one years ago, in the fall, Dolores was involved with members of the Chamber in planning the Hometown Holidays . After two years, The Chamber decided to call it a festival; and, at the recommendation of Ruth Doty, the name Black Walnut Festival was chosen. Dolores continued to participate in various jobs from chairman, publicity chairman and unofficial photographer until they become “snowbirds” who head south in late October.

Howard and Dolores remain in the Camden area, at their farm west of town, where they continue their hobbies of gardening, golfing and oil painting.

They wish to thank all their customers, former employees and friends for 40 wonderful years.

Friday, October 06, 2006

Sky Above the Clouds IV

Sky Over the Clouds IV is not where I expect it to be. I am at the wrong stairwell. The guard kindly tells me, “Even if you went to the correct stairwell, you would not have found it there. It has been moved during “the construction”. It hangs above the Gunsaulus Elevator.” Its move is something I did not anticipate.

The painting came to Chicago as part of a three-city tour. Difficulties arose during its hanging. The painting was supposed to travel with its exhibit to San Francisco. Lessons learned during its hanging inferred the doors in that San Francisco venue could not accommodate the 8-foot high painting and its 24-foot length so The Art Institute of Chicago kept it on display.

When I saw it my first time, the painting’s horizon was only slightly above my eye-level. Only the width of the stairwell separated me from Georgia O’Keefe’s view. I recognized what she saw seventy years ago. I’m above the clouds in the foreground and moving rapidly toward the horizon.

The time for my husband to see Sky Above the Clouds IV is limited by our late arrival time and the remaining hour of today’s museum operating hours. This is second on my list of “art he must see” while we are here. We retrace quickly past the Rothkos, make a beeline through the Modern and Contemporary Galleries towards gallery 249, and go down the stairwell where I last saw it. We orient with gallery 150’s inner wall of windows that hold McKinlock Court in view. We turn to the west, locate Gunsaulus Elevator and look above it. “We found it,” as I exhale.

The painting covers less than a third of the width of this wall. We approach it. Stand too close and we look up the wall to see the clouds in tight formation above our heads. We cannot rise to the horizon’s level. We can only step back to view the entire painting. The horizon becomes point A of a right-sided triangle and we are part of the most rigid structure known.

This move changed my point of view and I no longer resonate with the exhilaration of freedom and the anticipation of exploration. Her depiction of her 1936 flight is above my head this time. My husband reassures me that he can imagine viewing it the way I once did and still believes the story I told him about how this painting made me feel. I believe him for he looked out the same airplane windows I did on our vacation flights, and he used his own art of photography to express himself.

http://www.artst.org/okeefe/1965+-+Sky+Above+Clouds+IV.jpg

Friday, August 25, 2006

Time Traveling with our Travel Group

We had supper at a chain restuarant at an interstate exit with five friends. We met these people last year when we cruised aboard Brilliance of the Seas in the Mediterranean last October and we shared the same dining seating assignment. We had not yet looked at each others' photographs and videos. Ruth and Alva invited the group to their home for dessert and watch Alva's videos. They gave directions to their house, and that's when it started to seem weirdly familiar.
Their directions took us one street past our first house. We lived in this neighborhood in 1975-1977. Their backyard is about three backyards down from our previously owned backyard. As I sit at the table and eat strawberry shortcake, I am aware that Ruth and Alva's house is the same floorplan as our home was. I'm reminded of an Agatha Christie novel where the heroine thought she was having deja vue until Miss Marple solves the mystery that she lived there as a child. (I won't spoil the whodunnit.) Then my attention was on what changes they made to their house from the way I remembered ours.

Thursday, August 24, 2006

Tuesday, August 22, 2006

Writers' Group

Thirteen people attended the meeting and one member could not find us. I received an email from him the next morning.

Saturday, August 19, 2006

Benefit Barn Sale

Cousin Lisa and the family of her husband Jim are having a Benefit Barn Sale at their barn this week. There are raffles of donated merchandise from local businesses. All proceeds will go to Jim's brother, John.
At the end of July, John was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Surgery removed a large portion of the baseball-sized tumor. He now faces seven weeks of radiation and chemotherapy treatments to shrink and eradicate the rest of it.
John has two children, a son who is eleven and a daughter who is nine. John is the co-owner of a flooring business in the county seat north of my family porch. He has worked in the flooring business all his adult life.

Friday, August 18, 2006

Michigan 400 NASCAR Pace Semi

If the driver of the semi looks familiar, he is Cousin Dean. Dean won the Gordon Food Rodeo Contest. Part of his prize is to drive the semi as the lead pace car at Michigan 400 sponsored by Gordon Foods. His younger son will be with him and then they get to watch the race.

Thursday, August 17, 2006

A Visit from a College Friend

My friend, Norma, visited yesterday. I keep in touch with her and two other women from my university days. We talked for ten hours! Her summer vacation went by too fast: she visited family out-of-state and she went to her high school alumni reunion. Next week she returns to school for her 33rd year but with a different position as a fourth grade language arts teacher.
When we weren't talking or looking at pictures, we ate some good food. For our lunch, I picked the local tea room which has delicious home-made pies. I had the cherry pie ala mode and Norma had the peanut butter pie. I cooked supper, and the menu was glazed salmon filet, sesame-flavored asparagus, and roasted sweet potato cider salad served with Le Rime blend of reisling and pinot grigiot.
Host and I wanted to watch the finale of So You Think You Can Dance. She quickly learned that we could not decide between Heidi, Travis or Benji to win. Congratulations, Benji!

This recipe is from Eating for IBS by Heather Van Vorous.
Roasted Sweet Potato Cider Salad
Makes 4 servings

1-1/2 pounds sweet potatoes (about 2 large) peeled, quartered lengthwise
1 Tablespoon plus 1 teaspoon olive oil, divided
2 Tablespoons scallions, finely diced
3 Tablespoons apple cider vinegar
1/8 teaspoon salt
Preheat oven to 400 degrees F. Place sweet potatoes in large baking dish, drizzle with 1 tablespoon oil, and toss potatoes until evenly coated. Cover pan (with foil or lid) and bake 20 minutes. Uncover pan, turn potatoes and bake uncovered until tender and golden brown, about 15 -20 minutes. Cool potatoes and chop into bite-size pieces. Transfer to serving bowl. Whisk vinegar with remaining teaspoon of oil and salt. Pour over potatoes, add scallions, and stir gently until well combined.

Tuesday, August 15, 2006

My Great-Grandmother

I had one great-grandmother whom I remember. We weren't close friends, but I remember visiting her home several times. I may have been pre-school age when there may have been a family reunion at her home. She had a rat-terrier dog that bit me (barely broke the skin) for no-good reason except I wanted to pet it and the dog did not want to be petted. That may explain my reluctance to visit until I got bigger than the dog, Tiny.
Family always came to her house by the backdoor. She had flower gardens along both sides of the walk between her garage and porch area. I stepped down to a cement area that had a hand pump for water that she still used for the garden. The screen door screeched, and then a yoo-hoo announced our arrival. Her house was full of plants and bird songs as she had many cages of finches and canaries. I remember an enclosed back porch with a water closet at one end. That water closet had a high bench-seating toilet. The kitchen was the next room. I remember two windows and three doors. One wall was lined with oak pantry cupboards. One wall had the sink in the middle and counter space for food preparation. I had to twist and turn to get to other rooms: go through a doorway and turn left immediately to go through a doorway into the dining room. Beyond the dining room was the front parlor. To the left of the front parlor was a stairway to the bedroom area.
I was twenty when she passed away and she was only 84 or 85 years old. I don't remember when she came to our family gatherings at her son's home. She did not come even though she lived in the same small village. My grandmother (her daughter-in-law) would put together a plate of food to take to her, and I remember riding along to deliver the food. I also remember riding along to deliver groceries to her from the grocery store. I hope the reason she did not come to the family gatherings I attended may have been that she visited one of her daughters' homes.
Her appearance to me was that of an elderly woman who wore her hair in an upsweep and secured it into a bun. When she worked in the gardens, she wore a broad-rimmed hat, a Mother Hubbard apron for all its pockets and gardening gloves. Her thin voice quavered when she spoke.
I don't know if I remember her funeral.

Sunday, August 13, 2006

Tuesday, August 01, 2006

Aunt J reports from Annie Oakley Days

I had a busy weekend: went to Annie Oakley Days Friday with a friend, ate breakfast and played bingo until noon. That was a real treat. We had burnt eggs and burnt biscuits and there were a lot of older than me people there. The bingo was funny they would pause at least two minutes between numbers because the older people couldn't get their cards played fast enough. They should have just played a straight line and four corners because they didn't understand how to play so it was quite interesting. I didn't pay the $5 which was cheap enough for a breakfast and bingo; but, did you ever taste burnt eggs? They just need to be a little more organized. Ha!! Listen to me. Then I took a friend to the campground and we had a nice time.

Monday, July 31, 2006

It Feels Like Intaxication

Intaxication is the feeling of euphoria that comes when you open your tax refund before you realize that it was already your money.

Yes! Today I received notification that my first defined-benefit pension check from my employment at Kmart was deposited.
Yes! They paid me the accrued monthly payments since I started this process of applying for my benefits.
Yes! My retirement from Kmart is official.

Friday, July 28, 2006

Two Deaths

We are sad to report that Host's Maternal First Cousin, Ted Jr., died. He was in the hospital trying to recover from a massive heart attack and it appears that he had another. There may be an autopsy before he is cremated. I have not heard when the memorial service will be.

My first cousin Christy reported that Uncle Jim's special friend, Polly, passed away on Sunday. Her funeral was on Thursday, July 27.

Saturday, July 22, 2006

We welcome our first grandchild


A Son (Grandson) was born to Son and Daughter-in-law at 11:34 PM on Friday, July 21. He weighs 7 pounds 6 ounces. He has ten fingers and ten toes. His hair is dark and plenty of it. He is the cutest baby in the world. Like his Dad was, he is alert and curious.

Daughter-in-law was in labor for more than 21 hours and delivery (push, push, push) took 35 minutes.

Host, Daughter and I were able to be at the hospital for more than thirteen hours. We spent most of the time in the same room with Son and Daughter-in-Law. We moved to the waiting room as delivery began. Fireworks were in the sky, visible from the window of the waiting room,at the same time as the birth.

Thursday, July 20, 2006

No grandbaby yet

No baby yet. We have a week to wait. If the baby does not arrive in its own sweet time, labor will be induced on July 27th. The doctor wants to deliver it before he goes on vacation.

The nursery is beautiful. Son painted the walls yellow and then painted stripes on the wall where the closet is. The stripes match the stripes on the bedding. He used the same colors to paint a dresser in a block pattern. Daughter-in-law upholstered a second-hand glider and its stool. We saw how nice it looked when we had a meal together (with Daughter) to celebrate Host's birthday.

News for Host's Maternal Cousins

Host learned Wednesday that his cousin Ted Jr. survived a massive heart attack. Host expressed some concern that maybe he should have a checkup since it was the second cousin on this side of the family to have a heart attack within four months. (Jo, the first cousin to have a heart attack, did not survive his).

Thursday, July 13, 2006

Waiting for Godot/collecting my pension

My 55th birthday was in April. I knew that I could start to collect my frozen-since-1996 defined-benefit pension the month after my 55th birthday. The associate website changed as the company for which I once worked was taken over by a bond bully, subsequently merged and then a new company formed. The promise of 8-10 days for my paperwork to arrive was not met. Even though the retirement processing center had sufficient information from the questions I answered on the website to know that I qualified, the representative told me that they would need 45 business days to mail the forms to me, and he whispered that I should call back to make sure that I had all forms completed precisely as needed, "The process will take an additional 45 days after all paperwork in received by us."
Twenty-one business days after I started this project, I received the paperwork, completed it and had spouse's signature notarized. I verified I had all necessary pages completed the way that it was supposed to be and I mailed it by certified mail on the twenty-second day. Yes, you can bet that I photocopied every thing.
It has been twenty-seven business days and I'm waiting for the postal receipt. I'll keep updating this post to do something productive with my emotional energy attached to this project .
I received the postal receipt on the 29th business day.
No payment was deposited for the month of July. I made a phone call and learned it is still in process.
A calendar month has elapsed since I received that postal receipt.

Wednesday, July 05, 2006

Cornhole replaces Co-ed Naked Volleyball

"Come to our picnic because we play coed naked volleyball." That was always the way that Tena invited her family and friends. It may have been her way of screening out the relatives who are disapproving prudes. She also enjoyed a good game of volleyball. It was more barnyard volleyball than naked volleyball. We did not pay attention to setting up spikes or digging a pancake. The object was to get it over the net and keep it in play so that you did not give a point to the other team. Knee injuries sidelined Tena last year. This year we had a Cornhole tournament.
Teams were put together randomly when numbers were drawn from a hat. Brackets were set up, and two games were played at the same time. Host and I were on different teams. Both of our teams were out in the first round. Host's team was the first to be skunked, 11-0. The winning team was Aaron and Judy. Cornhole is more inclusive than volleyball as the age of players were from 11 to 79.
The food as always was wonderful and abundant. I never cook many of these recipes at home, so I cannot wait to treat myself to a sticky roll or several pieces of pie. My roasted sweet potato salad cannot compete with Helen's homemade toffee-flavored ice cream, even if sweet potatoes are high in beta-carotene.
Our thanks to Mike and Tena for hosting this picnic again this year.

Wednesday, June 28, 2006

Albert and Lora Powell-A Story Retold


The Albert Powell family resided on a farm north of Gettysburg in the year 19--. Farm life was hard work, and the entire family had to do their share of chores. Even during the harshest winter weather, animals must be fed and tended; wood must be carried to heat the home and to fuel the cook stove so meals can be prepared.
The children, Lester and V**, were the first to fall victim of influenza. With two young children to tend, daily life became increasingly difficult for the mother, Lora, as she nursed the sick children to provide them with what comfort she could and continued her essential chores.
The father, Albert, did the farm work and took care of the animals. He helped all he could with the household chores and sick children. The high fever and diarrhea weakened them so much that Albert or Lora kept constant vigil. He gave the children fluids to drink and fed them spoonfuls of soup, praying their strength would return soon. Their first child died in an unfortunate accident years before and if he did not keep doing something for the recovery of his family’s health, he remembered the sorrow that the loss of a child can trigger.
Within a week, Lora became so ill that she was confine to bed with a fever so high that she was in a state of delirium. Albert bathed her tenderly and made her as comfortable as possible. Albert now had the family to nurse, comfort and feed along with the chores in the barn. The temperature was bitterly cold and the snow deep. The wind blew furiously. The weather challenged him to keep the woodbox filled to heat the house. Days past since Lora became so feverish that she did not know him as she lay on their bed, alternating between sweats and chilling. Twice a day he went to the barns to fed and bed the horses, cow, hog and chickens. He milked the cow and gathered eggs from the hens. As he carried his third, of that day, armload of wood into the house, he felt weakness pass through his body. “Lord, give me strength: I must take care of my family.”
More time passed. The fevers of the children broke. Their weakness kept them confined to their beds. Lora was extremely ill and required much of his attention.
The fourth day dawned calm and sunny. It was the best weather of the month. By early afternoon, the weather changed drastically and evening shadows came sooner than expected. Bad weather was coming again. Albert finished his evening chores as fast as possible and tended to his sick family. Albert suddenly felt nauseated and weak. He raised his hand to his forehead and felt his own fever. He sat by the stove and tried to focus on what he had to do to add more wood to the stove. He listened to the howling wind. More snow fell on the deeply covered ground and drifted. The room was lit only by the kerosene lamp on the table by the window and the isinglass of the heating stove. He heard the crackle of the burning wood and the tick of the mantel clock. He was about to lose consciousness to doze when he heard a knock on the door. Was the wind playing tricks on him? No one would be out on such a miserable night. Again, a knock, this time more insistent. Albert used the chair and table to help him stand on his way to the door. He felt so dizzy that he fumbled for the doorknob. He opened it and then collapsed.
He remembered little of the days that would pass while he was feverish: a cool cloth on his forehead, someone holding his head and urging him to drink, the weight of extra blankets when he chilled.
He woke in a room filled with sunshine and fragrant with the aroma of freshly-baked bread. He turned his head and saw his beautiful wife smiling at him. She sat in a chair by the couch where he lay. “You must be feeling better to make bread,” he said with a weak smile.
“I’ve had strength only enough to sit by you for the past several days,” Lora said. “Our angel has done all the work and nursed us back to health.”
“I felt so bad that I thought I was going to meet the angels. I had no idea that one might help us here on Earth.”
Albert heard the oven door open so he looked in the direction of the kitchen area. A thin young woman took out several loaves of bread.
Lora said, “Let me introduce you to one.”
“The Farm Girl, will you please come here to meet Albert. He is feeling much better today.”
The young woman knelt by the couch so that he could remain prone. “I’m so glad you are feeling better.”
“We thank you for all your help. Where did you come from and how did you get here in such bad weather?”
The young woman assessed his weakened condition and promised she answer all of his questions over the next days.
She started her story in a quiet voice and kept her eyes downcast. “I come from north of Arcanum area. I was walking to my folk’s house, north of Oakland. . I started out on the first nice day of this month. I could no longer stand the abuse of my husband.
“We were married last June. Everyone thought it would be a good marriage. We met two years ago and saw each other many times. He was always kind and interesting. After we married, he changed. I could do nothing to please him. Nothing! I did everything I could to please him, and he was still abusive and cruel. I begged him to let me return to my parents if I could not please him. He would not. He would say, you are my wife and I can treat you anyway that I wish.
“When the weather broke, he saddled the horse to go to town. He told me all the chores that he expected me to finish before he came back home. I knew his punishment would be severe even if I did all the work.”
Her voice became firm. “I put on my warm clothes as if I were going to tend the animals. As soon as I could not see him anymore, I went back to the house for the clothes I could carry in a valise and some scraps of food. I’m strong and I thought I could walk to my parent’s house by dusk. I had not counted on the change in the weather. It became difficult to find my way in the blowing snow that made drifts across the road. I seemed to be going slower and slower. I had to keep going to get to their house before dark. Sleet started, and for the first time all day, I began to be afraid. It got dark sooner than I expected. I knew that I only had about three miles to go. I could not see well in the dark, unsettled weather so I started to look for shelter. I saw your light in the window and followed your lane to the house. I knocked several times before you answered the door. You opened the door and then your face went all white and you fell down. I thought I must have frightened you.
“I called out, “Is anyone here?” I heard a faint voice from the other room. I closed the door behind me and ran past your crumpled body. I found your wife and children in the bedroom. The children were asleep. Lora was too weak to get up but she told me they had been sick and that you must be out in the barn. Lora told me to go out by the fire and warm myself because I looked frozen. I told her to lie back down. I did not want to alarm someone who was so sick with the news that her husband was unconscious.
“I went to the living room where you lay and tried to get you up. I could not. You were on a throw rug. I tugged and tugged until I moved the rug with you on it next to the stove. I found several blankets on the couch so I covered you with those. I thought what else can I do? I noticed my own clothes were thawing out and dripping on the floor. I changed into some clothes that my valise kept dry. I found some towels to dry my hair.
“I returned to the fire and soaked up all the heat I could stand. My body tingled as the cold left. I was then more accustomed to the heat in the room. My mind started to sort out the events of the day. I left my abusive husband. I got as far from him as I could go that day. I sought shelter. I found the shelter-warm shelter and four sick people. What to do?
“The fire in the stove reminded me of the first thing to do: I stoked the stove for the night fire with the wood in the woodbox by the backdoor. I hoped it would be enough to keep us all warm until morning. I felt exhausted and I fell asleep in the rocker by the stove.
“I woke early in the morning and felt so thankful that I was safe and away from my husband. I knew he would not follow me. He is a coward. If I were to reach the protection of my family, he will make up some story to tell his neighbors and his family that makes him appear to be a poor, neglected husband. I no longer cared what people thought. I just wanted to be away from him.
“The immediate problems came to me and I arose. I checked on the Father, who was sleeping exhaustedly. The Mother and children were sleeping soundly. I tended the stoves. I put on my now-dry outer clothing and went out the back door into a world that seemed brighter and sunnier than any day I had seen all winter. In the barn the horses, cows and chickens awaited their morning rations. Having been a farm girl all my life, I knew what to do. I returned to the house with a pail of fresh milk and three freshly-laid eggs.
“I checked on my patients and found them all still sleeping. I went to the kitchen to see what I could prepare for them when they would wake. There were only a few scraps of bread left so I started to prepare bread.
“I became aware of someone standing in the doorway of the kitchen. I turned and saw two beautiful children: a boy about seven and a girl about 4. They were in their nightclothes and stared at me in confusion. I introduced myself, asked their names and if they were hungry yet? The boy said they were Lester and V**. Yes, they were very hungry.
“While you get dressed, I’ll fix you something to eat. I found the cornmeal and made them mush. They ate their breakfast. I told them to play quietly because their Mother and Father were very sick and needed their rest.”
Days past and The Farm Girl was the nurse, farmhand and housekeeper. Lora still remained so weak that The Farm Girl told her to keep resting. The Farm Girl would do the work while Lora recuperated. They were both worried about Albert. They took turns bathing his face. Together they got him on the couch to make him more comfortable.
Weeks past while the family recovered their strength. The Farm Girl sent word to her parents through the Powell’s trusted neighbor. Her parents would welcome her home and help her end her marriage.
The Farm Girl stayed with the family until spring when she said she must leave because she could be a big help to her parents on their farm. The Powell family felt that they owed her their lives and wanted to repay her. She knew they had no money. Although the time spent nursing them and doing the chores had been hard work, doing that had given her confidence back that she could take care of herself and others. She asked them to repay her in this way, “I really would like to go back to my husband’s house and get the rest of my clothes and some pieces of furniture that my parents and family gave me when we got married. Maybe you can help me do that.”
So on a nice spring day, the trio of The Farm Girl, Albert and a strong neighbor went with the horse and wagon to her former home. They found the surly, belligerent husband. The Farm Girl said, “My friends and I are here to collect my belongings. I am returning to my parents’ home.”
He may have been abusive to his wife but he knew that he was no match for two strong men. He just shrugged and turned away from them as he walked to the barn.

This story was written down by my mother. She heard it from Lester Powell.

Sunday, June 25, 2006

Nephew's Graduation Party

Nephew Drew's life is the one we are celebrating today at an open house: inside, deck and backyard. I report his plans include attending community college while living at home. He starts with those freshman required classes. A major might have been business but now education for elementary grades is another possibility . He sits in the front row of the panoramic photo of his class. His class is larger than the entire high school my own children attended eight and ten years earlier. The pictures his family selected to display are moments of what he has been doing for the last eighteen years.

Host once said that he captures moments of time in his photos. He said that he knows what we were doing in the photo, and he suggested that I write captions for his pictures about what was happening elsewhere in the world since I enjoy the stories of others. When I look at Drew's photos, I wonder what he was doing and thinking because I don't know the story of that moment. We know more about the highlights of his life than we shared experiences from his life. The four-hour distance between our homes and the ten and eight year age difference between Drew and his cousins contributed to the dissonance of our alternate realities.

I think I'm talking to Drew when I speak toward the depicted toddler Drew, "When you were three years old, Lesley had surgery for scoliosis and that was about the same time that Brian was the only member of the junior-high cross country team. " I turn back to listen to Drew's story of the picture. He had already left my conversation to attend to other guests.

I return to look at other pictures. Now I turn the volume of my conversation down to inner monologue, "We show up on special occasions, and we try to fit into your life. At the same time we try to restore family connections with your grandparents, your parents and your sister. We celebrate Christmas two or three weekends before the actual holiday. I used to buy books to encourage you to read because that is a favorite past-time of mine, and I hoped we might share reading as a common interest. Now it is easier to swap gift cards from stores, restaurants or gas stations. We bring the photo albums of our past year. Every year Host shares pictures he shoots at Christmas."

Framed photos of our family are on shelves of your family bookcase. My photo is the one I had taken in 1990 so that is the aunt you knew when you were two years old. "Did you know the story behind that picture? I earned my black belt in the martial art of taekwondo and that formally posed portrait went to South Korea with my application for recognition of my black belt status with the Kuwikkikwon."

I rarely keep portraits on display. I keep the pictures in our chronological order. Drew's graduation picture may be framed now, but by the end of the year, it will be in a pocket in an album, labeled 2006, and this story of his graduation party will be linked to it.

Friday, June 23, 2006

An Obscure Letter to a Cousin

Dear Paternal First Cousin GW,
You're going to have to give me a bit more than "Hello" to tell everyone. The next questions are always: "How's he doing?", "What's he doing?" and "What's new with him and his family?"

My answer to the first question is, I'm in good health and so is Host. I have no regrets about leaving Kmart in Nov 2004. Before I left Kmart I knew that there were no jobs with corporate retail pharmacies, hospital pharmacies or long-term care facility pharmacy providers that I wanted. After I left, I explored some other areas that require a pharmacy license. I considered marketing my services such as consulting for retail stores that had insufficient resources to provide medicinal therapy management, disease state management, or to make sure that they are complying with addiction treatment protocols. After I wrote business plans for those ideas, I found enough flaws not to pursue them. I have a background in pharmacy with current licenses to practice in OH and IN, with the emphasis on the word, background. My status as a retired person will be "official" when I receive my first defined-benefit pension check from Kmart.

Host works at an independent pharmacy in County Seat and he likes the work environment. He works shifts that are no longer than eight hours; he can take his lunch-time out of the store; he works only one weekend out of four; and he works with sufficient professional staff at that store (five pharmacists and eight certified technicians).

I'm exploring opportunities for a change of career to a freelance writer and as my own investment portfolio manager. I'm in the process of building a portfolio of my published writing.

Traveling is something we both enjoy. Together we travel during HostÂ’s vacation times. In April 2006, we traveled to Hispaniola, Jamaica, Grand Cayman and Mexico on a Royal Caribbean cruise. Frequent trips to Indianapolis and Cincinnati often involve exploring those communities. Our next destination vacation will be in Chicago for a few days in early Fall. We plan to stay a few days to visit some of my favorite museums and some other museums to which I have not been. Chicago is a great city for Host to photograph.

We went to a surprise party hosted by Second Cousin Julie and her husband to celebrate the40thh wedding anniversary of her parents. They were shocked. Barbara kept saying, "Wow!" and First-Cousin-Once-Removed Jim kept telling us that we were all a bunch of liars to keep this a secret from him. FC1R Bill and wife L showed pictures of their new grandson, Lance(SC1R), who is SC Andy's only child. FC1R Don and wife N brought a granddaughter who is about the same age as the older of SCJulieÂ’s daughters. FC1R Nancy showed pictures of her wedding on May 25 to Bob B. FC1RNancy W.B. is expecting her first grandchild who will be a girl named Grace when SC Michelle delivers in early September.

The news from graduation parties starts with Nephew Taylor. He plans to attend the Hamilton branch of Miami University because he will be a commuting freshman. After his freshman or even sophomore years, he can commute to the Oxford campus. Nephew T's summer job is working at P's Pizza. When Brother P came back from CA in Nov 2005, P bought the pizza business from Brother E. P had to clean the equipment, paint the walls, replace a cement floor and put new tile over that new cement floor before he could open the business. (E previously leased the business and equipment to someone who could not keep up the payments.)

P finally has visiting rights with his younger son, Nephew DA, that are honored by DA's mother. P rents an apartment in the same community..

Brother E and S are separated since 2005. They are in the process of dissolution of their marriage. Niece L spends most of the time with E. He home-schools her. S lives in a house she inherited after the deaths of her parents (less than two years apart).

Brother D, D and Niece D attended a family reunion on her side of the family. I picked them up at Indianapolis airport because I stayed overnight with Daughter. Daughter and I went to Indianapolis Museum of Art on that Thursday. The drive to former hometown gave me a chance to talk with them since I had not seen them since March 2005. Brother D closed his video store after that March 05 visit. He is currently working as a general contractor on a project to build a boardwalk in some recreational wetlands. Sister-in-law D is the office staff for a lawyer whose office is five-minutes from their house. Brother D coaches Niece D's baseball team year-round.

FC1R Megan was the honored guest at the next graduation party. She will attend Morehead State University. Her plans are to major in graphic design. I visited with First Cousin Christy who I don't often see on the 4th of July because she has some health concerns, asthma and COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease), that make a hot July picnic uncomfortable for her. I knew that Christy was going to Edison State College but I did not know what her major was. She is taking classes for a degree in medical code billing. She won't be done before August. She currently works at a local school district as an aide for handicapped students.
Her boyfriend, Ed , recently had been told that his employer, A.O.Smith, will be closing the operation at which he worked for thirty-four years. Uncle Jim was there with his friend, Polly. Uncle Jim provides a lot of her healthcare since her stroke.
FC1R Sean may complete is undergraduate work at University of Toledo next year, and he is considering UTÂ’s Law School. Cousin Mike is a district manager for Jackson-Hewitt but I think his job title and area of responsibility changed since he began working there. His wife T works as a social worker/counselor for troubled teenagers .

Will you please get me current with your story?

Wednesday, June 14, 2006

I wanted to be the princess

http://daytonartinstitute.org/exhibits/exh_Diana_main.html#

I could not get a picture from this exhibit into my blog but I got this website in case you don't know what exhibit to which I'm referring.
My sister-in-law was once so interested in Diana and her wedding, that she had a doll on display with a replica wedding gown. We made some tentative plans to attend the exhibit together. Her schedule interfered with her viewing the original.
My daughter-in-law, her sisters and mother went to the exhibit on their way to her baby shower a month ago. The exhibit was crowded because that day was Mother's Day and many mothers must have asked to go for a special treat. They liked it and compared it to the Jackie Onassis fashion exhibit that had been in Chicago.
I went to see it another busy day (only 3 days before closing). When I was asked how I liked it, my first response was, "It was OK. I liked seeing the tiara, the coronet, the jewelry, the wedding dress and all the other clothing. Yeah, it was OK." I've been giving some thought to why it was just OK and I decided that it was because,
"I want to be the princess."
I want to try on the tiara.
I want to try on the bracelets.
I want to try on the dresses and prance around in them.

OK, Security would probably have a fit at that suggestion but it really would have been fun to line up with the tiara display and have my face reflected back at me as if I were wearing it. The mannequins were faceless or headless, so why not have my face there? I think that every woman and girl in that line would have agreed with me.
The technology for truly interactive museum experiences get better all the time as the Lord of the Ring exhibit at Indiana State Museum and the Star Trek exhibit at Las Vegas Hilton set my standards quite high. The catalog of the exhibit could have been a low-tech interactive experience: I would have preferred a book of paper dolls.

But that's just Our opinion,
Princess Nasy-poo

Wednesday, May 17, 2006

The Baby Shower Then and Now

This cake was the one at my baby shower when the Little One we welcomed was Son. Yes, I still have the sugar booties in my freezer. Aren't you glad that I did not put them on the cake that we had on Sunday? From other pictures, I see 15 women and 5 men at our house that day. Not everyone was family, as employees of our business and my college friend was there. Cake and punch were served.

Daughter hosted the party at our home for its central location as our family members are located throughout the Midwest. Her plan started strictly as a baby shower for Daughter-in-Law, and Son wanted to come and open presents too. She accomodated Son and the baby shower grew into a family reunion as she included the guys. Twenty-three people were present with their presents: Hostess;Host; Daughter; Daughter's Boyfriend; Son and Daughter-in-Law; my parents; Host's parents; Father's First Cousin and Wife; my first cousin, his wife and daughter; Aunt; Daughter-in-law's mother and two sisters; Host's Sister and her daughter; and Brother1 and Niece. Naming my family that way is awkward but I hope my readers get the gist of who was there to welcome our new Little One. Little One will have twice as many family lines as the parents did as the family tree expands.

Daughter planned the menu of meat tray, two pasta salads, fruit salad, Bandelero beans, crudites, chips and carrot cake, and she prepared most of it. Mother of Daughter-in-Law brought a rich chocolate cake decorated with ganache and fresh pansies.
Daughter planned three games and we only played one. She bought door prizes but not everybody got theirs.

A third of those twenty-three people at the shower were not yet born at the time of my own baby shower. Family parties give family members an introduction into the roles that they will assume as the next generation, and parties let us change. For example, that time in my life sparked an interest in family stories and genealogy. Family parties will have some traditions and we will still remark about how fast that younger members grow and get prettier/better looking. Yes, we will still remark that time goes by so fast since we last saw each other. Reunions are a good time for people of generation 1 and 2 to say that we welcome generation 3 as young adults who have their own family traditions to make. We will have generation 4 to tell, " You are getting so big and so good-looking!"

Sunday started the beginning of the season of Family Parties. We will be going to a birthday party, three graduation parties and 4th of July picnic within the next seven weeks as even more generation 3 members have parties to celebrate their rites of passage into adulthood. That need not make generation 1 and 2 feel old. There I will be, generation 2, asking, "Have you checked out my blog?"

Saturday, May 06, 2006

Life is Five Days Long


Atlas Moths
Photo taken at Butterfly Farm, George Town, Grand Cayman, April 26,2006


Life is five days long for the Atlas moth. She spent six months inside a cocoon for her transformation into the largest moth and then has only five days to find her mate and lay 250 eggs that will become the next generation of caterpillars. Excuse us for being voyeurs but we are here at the Butterfly Farm for only a few hours.
Our guide was an artist who used wonderful metaphors to explain the life cycles of caterpillars and butterflies. Five layers of skin so that the caterpillar can double in size four times before the fifth layer becomes the chrysallis. For some reason, the guide thought that we cruise ship tourists might connect with their purpose of eating until one outgrows ones own skin. Once inside the chrysallis or cocoon, a caterpillar is reduced to DNA soup and becomes a totally different creature.
The butterflies who are poisonous can take the time to stop for pictures. The ones who aren't poisonous are more likely to be the ones who flit and are more difficult to photograph.
The Hurricane of 2005 in Grand Cayman destroyed its citrus trees and endangered the indigenous catterpillars and butterflies that depend upon those trees. During the cleanup and restoration of their human lives, many people brought the caterpillars they found to the Butterfly Farm for sanctuary until new citrus trees are planted. I have concern for how the ending of this story will be written as I observed the building of resort complexes and strip malls on this side of the island.

Thursday, April 20, 2006

Life is Four Days Long


La Pedrera, photo taken October 2005

Touring Barcelona was not on the itinerary. We had arrival time and sailing time, and we were resigned to wait.
The airline gave us something to do at the airport; our checked luggage did not arrive. Reporting lost luggage is bad enough because the questions make me aware that I didn't know enough to be helpful. I know it was black and it holds the stuff I packed. What kind of suitcase? What manufacturer? What contents in which of the two bags? My name and address are inside and outside. It has Royal Caribbean Cruise Line tags on it. We decorated it with red and green ribbons. The airline put barcode labels on it and here are the copies of the barcodes. Why didn't they get it where it was supposed to be? We weren't the only ones with lost luggage as every one who had a connecting flight before this transAtlantic flight had to report at least one bag missing. I've reported lost luggage before so I felt anxious about Husband and I being understood in Barcelona. The woman who took our information may have English as a second language, but she understood us a lot better than the guy from my same state who took my first lost luggage report and never found a pirate flag from Disney World.
The RCCL representative waited for all the expected early arrival passengers to get on the bus. Then she announced the happy news that she and the driver would give us a tour of Barcelona while the ship prepares for our arrival. Yes, much of it was quick, drive-by touring that whets our curiosity for exploring. They picked sites that we Americans are likely to associate with Barcelona from watching television: the Olympics and background footage used on the Travel Channel.
She gives us some of its 2,000 year history and tells of the pride and confidence in their economy and urban renewal since 1975 and the 1992 Olympic games. Today is a rare day because a solar eclipse occurs while we are walking in a park that overlooks the city and the Mediterranean Sea. The guide apologizes for not having as many viewing glasses as she has people.
Back on the bus, the RCCL representative tells us the Catalonians have an expression that translates, "Life is four days long." I waited for more of an explantation but the bus turns onto l'Eixample and she has lots to say about the Modernist architecture of the buildings on this road. The building depicted at the top of this post is La Pedrera has no single straight line or sharp corner, and it was the last secular work done by the architect Antoni Gaudi.
Gaudi spent more than forty years of his life working on what the locals call the Unfinished Church. An expiatory temple was envisioned by Bocabella in 1872, a different architect drew up plans in 1877, and the first stone was placed in 1882. The 31-year old Gaudi took over the project in 1884 and worked until his death in 1926. Construction continues on the magnificent Temple Expiatori de la Sagrada Familia and may continue for another twenty years. Yes, this drive-by of a building that is an acre in size and has been in the works for 133 years provoked enough curiosity that I did further research and learning upon my return home.
If we travel to Barcelona again, we are scheduling even more time to sightsee inside these beautiful buildings in this beautiful city and to ask how the expression, Life is four days long, translates into the daily lives of the people of Barcelona.

Wednesday, April 12, 2006

The morning view from our porch

Sometimes the morning view from our porch is magical, the way sunlight captures my imagination and suggests a portal to another time and place. "Once upon a time" is a great way to start a fairy tale. "Reminds me of the time" is a great way to start family stories because that is the way I remember the stories being started by my great-uncles and grandparents. Great-aunts told stories too. They told stories in the kitchen that started, "Did you hear about?" and ended in a hush when they realized a young child, who repeated without censorship, was present.
My mother collected this recipe in her cookbook (copyright 2001) as a memory of one of those great-aunts.
Helen B. Dunn's Butterscotch Pie
1/4 Cup butter
1Cup brown sugar, firmly packed
4 Tablespoons flour
Pinch salt
2 egg yolks
2 Cups Milk
1 Teaspoonful vanilla
Place butter and brown sugar in a heavy skillet over medium heat until it gets bubbly all over. Mix flour and salt: add slightly beaten egg yolks and milk slowly, mixing well. Add to the butter and brown sugar, a little at a time: mix well. Cook until thick. Remove from heat. Add vanilla. Cool slightly. Fill baked pie shell. Top with meringue and brown.

As you can tell from those directions that a lot of skill and art went into making those pies. That baked pie shell had to be ready before you started. When is bubbly all over? Why won't it work if you just dump it all in together? Why? Why?

Whether it is a story that begins, "Reminds me of the time" or "This is how you make butterscotch pie, the unspoken beginning is "This is what experience taught me".


Wednesday, April 05, 2006

Eighty Years Ago

The reading I have been doing recommends that no genealogical information be posted that is newer than what happened eighty years ago. That stumped me as I started to question how best to share the family stories that will become our record of history.

The reasoning for the eighty years deadline is that census records are made public at that time and so that information is public records. Yes, the fourth generation ago may be deceased but that eighty-year old public information exposes private information of the generation of our parents. I've read that AARP may even ask that census records be kept private longer as the population of centenarians increase.

I'm looking for stories of my great-grandparents' generation to post. The stories from our ancestors born in the last half of the nineteenth century, these ancestors who are sixteen or higher on our pedigree charts that have my children as 1 and me as 3. I know their names: David Smith Chesnut, Sara Adeline Harvey, John G. Lauerman, Clara Wittkugle, Theodore Lincoln Rogers, Altazera Sayers, Albert Kinder, Lettie Rusk, William F. White, Eliza White, Henry Beasley, Martha Jane Pease, Albert Lester Powell, Lora Mae Anthony, Taylor Elwood Dunn and Ida Mae Waitman. My curiosity got me that far, and yet I want to know more about what their lives were like and how that influenced their choices and opinions.

I mean, these people were born before James Naismith invented basketball. What did these people do in March before basketball?

Thursday, March 30, 2006

Welcome and the Ground Rules

I want my blog to be the website and opportunity for my family members to share their stories about themselves and their families.
Think of it as a family reunion.
But it’s a family reunion without the great food, I whine, and that makes it more like a viewing or the funeral without the opportunity to go back to the house to eat what the neighbors brought in.
Back to my point about sharing family stories and telling each other what we have been doing since we saw each other last.
Please read my blog and comment to help our family converse with each other while we live so far apart and on such different schedules.

These are the ground rules for participating in my blog.
Please be patient with my learning curve for self-publishing a blog is all new to me as I am self-taught from these books: Publishing a Blog with Blogger by Elizabeth Castro; Blogging in a Snap by Julie C. Meloni; and Blogging for Dummies by Brad Hill.

I may restrict commenting privileges to family members, my friends, and some other writers.
I may restrict posting privileges to family members.
I’m not trying to make this more difficult for you to participate. I am trying to keep my family porch free from nosy neighbors, gossips and spammers so they don’t bother you when you leave the conversation.

When you comment or post a story, I won’t tolerate trollish behavior which is “specious arguments, flames or personal attacks”.

There will be no blaming others in the stories; but you are allowed to state how their behavior provoked your interpretation of how you felt AT THAT TIME (and now you are over it because it happened a long time ago).

No telling tales on others unless they are dead or have given you permission to tell that story. I prefer that you look to your own life for stories to share here. An example of permission to tell the story of others can be when Mom and Dad gave permission to me to tell family that Dad was rushed to the hospital and to keep the family posted about his swift recovery from the stroke and pacemaker implant. In that way, this can be an extension of the idea of a family phone tree or email broadcast.

Please invite other family members to read this site.